DIFFERENT RELIGIONS HAVE DIFFERENT VIEWS
Among the world’s religions, views on masturbation vary widely. Some religions view it as a spiritually detrimental practice, some see it as not spiritually detrimental and others take a situational view. Among these latter religions, some view masturbation as allowable if used as a means towards sexual self-control, or as part of healthy self-exploration, but disallow it if it is done with wrong motives or as an addiction. Most people aren’t willing to even say the word, much less willing to have a discussion about it
WHAT DOES HINDUISM SAY?
According to Hinduism, seeking Kama is one of the four objectives of human life. Apart from a person who has taken vow of Brahmacharya, Hinduism grants complete freedom in sexuality. The Hindu treatise on sex Kama Sutra (4th to 6th centuries AD) does not condemn masturbation at all and moreover explains in detail the best procedure to masturbate. According to Hinduism, life begins at the Brahmacharya in which they are directed to chastely advance themselves educationally and spiritually to prepare themselves for a life of furthering their dharma and karma ; only once they reach the Grihastya or “householder” stage can they seek kama and artha through their vocations. Sexual pleasure is part of kama, one of the four goals of life.
BRAHMACHARYA-A WAY OF LIFE
Brahmacharya is one of the foundations of Hinduism and masturbation is one of the impediments to sexual purity during the Brahmacharya phase of the life. The word brahmacharya tends to take on a connotation of disciplining the use of and preserving sexual energy and is also understood broadly in yoga as “sexual continence,” which can be understood as being applicable as appropriate in different contexts like faith in marriage, celibacy for spiritual aspirants or in more extreme terms as complete celibacy or in more specific terms in relation to preserving and sublimating male sexual energy rather than losing it through ejaculation.
WHAT DOES ISLAM SAY?
Scholars of Islam do not generally approve of masturbation, except in extenuating circumstances. There is a statement in Quran “And those who guard their chastity, except from their wives for then, they are free from blame; But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are transgressors.” (23:5-7) In Islam, sexual engagement outside of marriage is a major sin, which causes the doer to be punished in this life and in the afterlife (Qiyama). Yet if one’s desire is so overwhelming one might perform a greater wrong by having sex outside marriage, masturbation becomes permissible as a necessity but in that case it will be like eating the flesh of a pig to survive from major hunger or starvation when no other food is available
WHAT QU’RAN SAYS
Quran says “But let them who find not [the means for] marriage abstain [from sexual relations] until Allah enriches them from His bounty. And those who seek a contract [for eventual emancipation] from among whom your right hands possess – then make a contract with them if you know there is within them goodness and give them from the wealth of Allah which He has given you. And do not compel your slave girls to prostitution, if they desire chastity, to seek [thereby] the temporary interests of worldly life. And if someone should compel them, then indeed, Allah is [to them], after their compulsion, Forgiving and Merciful.” (Qur’an, 24:33)
NEVER DO IT DURING RAMADAN
According to Sheikh Hamed Al-Ali: “Masturbation during the daytime of Ramadan breaks the fast, based on the Hadith that a fasting Muslim gives up eating, drinking, and sexual desire for the sake of Allah. Since masturbation is a kind of sexual desire, a fasting Muslim must avoid it. Therefore, masturbation invalidates the fast as does food and as it is one of the sins that if someone does it he or she would be violating the sanctity of this month.”
WHAT DOES CHRISTIANITY SAY?
There is no explicit claim in the Bible that masturbation would be sinful. The Catholic Church teaches that “Masturbation constitutes a grave moral disorder” and that “both the Magisterium of the Church—in the course of a constant tradition—and the moral sense of the faithful have declared without hesitation that masturbation is an intrinsically and seriously disordered act. Although “it is said that psychology and sociology show that masturbation is a normal phenomenon of sexual development, especially among the young,” this does not change the fact that it “is an intrinsically and seriously disordered act” and “that, whatever the motive for acting this way, the deliberate use of the sexual faculty outside normal conjugal relations essentially contradicts the finality of the faculty. For it lacks the sexual relationship called for by the moral order, namely the relationship which realizes ‘the full sense of mutual self-giving and human procreation in the context of true love.
WHAT DOES BUDDHISM SAY?
It should be understood that Buddhism, in practical terms, was advanced by the Buddha as a method by which human beings could end their suffering (dukkha), escape cyclic existence (samsara) and attain enlightenment (Bodhi) by conquering their ignorance (Avidyā), cravings (Tanha) and realizing the interpenetrative, void (Sunyata) nature of self (anatta) and phenomenon. Normally this entails practicing meditation and following the Four Noble Truths and Eightfold Path as a way to subdue the passions of the mind which, along with the five aggregates, cause suffering and rebirth in a karmic cycle.
ENLIGHTMENT AND LIBERATION
Masturbation (Pali: sukkavissaṭṭhi), being a carnal desire and often a lusty craving for sex with someone of opposite sex is viewed, from this point of view, easily as problematic for a person who wishes to attain the highest goal of enlightenment and liberation from samsara, never-ending cycle of birth and death. Buddhism also stresses the importance of compassion and mindfulness, so it is theoretically possible that if masturbation would allow for one to abstain from greater sexual misconduct which may harm another sentient being, it is permissible and even encouragable under the circumstances.
WHAT DOES JUDAISM SAY?
The Talmud forbids male masturbation, as it leads to unnecessary spilling of semen, or the impure thoughts of women other than the man’s lawful wife. This prohibition is derived from the Biblical narrative of Onan (Talmud Niddah 13a). The Talmud (ibid) likens the act to murder and idolatry. The wrath displayed by God toward Onan was invoked not through the act of spilling semen, but through disobedience to God’s command for Onan. Others consider the death sentence excessive for failure to properly follow the laws of Levirate marriage.
A WAY TO FRIGHTEN MEN???
The Biblical option offered to those refusing a Levirate marriage was that the woman, who was refused, would spit over the male’s shoe, after removing it from his foot. Because Onan’s punishment was so much more severe, they argue that the spilling of semen was the relevant offense. Onan was not masturbating, but practising birth control by withdrawal. According to the Kitzur Shulchan Aruch, “It is forbidden to discharge semen in vain. This is a graver sin than any other in the Torah. However, Beis Shmuel expounds that this is not literal, but rather serves to frighten man into avoiding the sin.
WHAT DOES SCIENCE SAY?
Psychology and sociology show that masturbation is a normal phenomenon of sexual development, especially among the young. I believe that masturbation can take place without any lust or sexual immorality present with a pure heart and mind. Lust is often associated with fantasy. I do not believe fantasy is deadly to our mind or is full of corrupt realistic expectations when these fantasies are based on healthy, potential realities. I believe that God granted each of us an imagination and the ability to dream. Masturbation coupled with fantasies about a loving future relationship with a long-term marriage partner can be healthy. They remind the single that we are sexually designed to be physically, emotionally and spiritually connected with someone else on an unparalleled human level. Everyone may have different views, some may agree with me some disagree but they are just an independent view and not a tool to hurt others feelings or beliefs……